What do you get from coaching?
I’m sure you won’t be surprised to hear that I’m a big fan of coaching. It’d be more of a surprise if I wasn’t, right? Well I’ve been on both sides of the coaching relationship so I thought I’d write a post to answer a few common question I hear about coaching, what is it and what you get from it, because I know a lot of people are curious.
Hopefully this post will do a good job of answering any questions you might have, but if you have more, then put them in the comments below and I’ll happily answer more!
What is coaching?
OK I’m going to start this answer by explaining what coaching isn’t, because I know it’s a huge misconception.
Coaching isn’t about being told how to live your life. A life coach does not have all the answers for you, they will not simply tell you how to live, and it’s not a passive process. I hear this all the time from people who are super anti coaching and it’s clear they haven’t been coached.
Instead coaching is a way to learn more about yourself and be supported to make changes that you want to make. You drive the process completely. Over the course of your sessions (this will vary coach to coach and depend on how many sessions are included in what you pay for) your coach will get to know you, ask questions, guide you to think about where you want to be, where you are now and how you can get there. It’s a safe space where you are listened to, respected as the authority on your life and given suggestions and ideas where appropriate. A coach will help you make plans and set goals as appropriate and when you agree follow up tasks, they will keep you accountable too.
What does a session look like? What do you talk about?
A first session is a chance for both the coach and the client to get to know each other, and for the coach to start building a picture of your life. When I am getting to know a client, I ask a lot of open questions and make notes so that I am able to remember all that we cover.
I ask about goals and ideas, and about a person’s current situation. Usually when a client comes to coaching they know they want to make changes but some people are more open to change than others! The client guides the conversation, and as the sessions progress, I start by checking in on how the client is getting on with current goals and tasks, before addressing anything else that comes up.
We’re humans, not robots, so there’s bound to be challenges along the way. When a client is struggling with something, we’ll discuss what’s going well and what isn’t going so well so I can build up a picture. I sometimes offer advice or ideas, if the client asks for them, and these might be taken on board or lead a client to think of something they think will work even better.
Before the end of a session we always agree on any follow up tasks (or homework!) and how I can support them in between sessions. If a client has an issue in between sessions, they can get in contact, but it’s always good to leave the session feeling as though we both know what’s expected of us. I then email the client some notes of the main things we discussed and their follow up tasks to refer back to later.
Who can benefit from coaching?
I’m inclined to say that everyone can benefit from coaching if it’s with the right coach for them. And by right coach, I mean someone who you click with, feel as though you can be open with and who works in a way that supports your vision for your life.
There are so many coaches in the world and thanks to the internet we can work with anyone! But take time to find out more about the person you want to work with. Not just how much they charge, but the kind of results people get, their background and the ethos they have. It’s easier to be open and honest with someone you feel a connection with.
What’s your style of coaching?
I focus a lot on balance and living a life that suits you. I’m not someone who promotes hustle or a one-size-fits-all approach of any kind. The only thing that everyone does is to start with the same materials and resources. After that point, every activity I suggest for follow up and every session is tailored to my individual clients. I don’t have a plan for you until our session develops and I see where you are, right now.
I’d say I’m a gentle motivator. I will listen to what you say and how you say it, and gently call you out when you’re making excuses but I’m not pushy or salesy. I believe that this is important for us to build a relationship that is open and honest (because I won’t do you any favours otherwise) but they are your sessions and I will support you in the way that suits you best.
Is it worth the money?
This is such a big question and I totally understand why this holds people back. Paying for coaching is a big investment. I completely agree.
I think it’s dependant on a few things. Namely, working with the right coach for you, the effort you put in, the time you have to dedicate to the process and how much you can afford. If those 4 things come together and you yourself are invested in the process then I definitely think that coaching is a worthwhile investment.
A lot of coaches (myself included) offer a short “get to know you” call which is a great way to test out if you’re a good fit, and payment plans help spread the cost too. Many coaches I know offer you the chance to spread the cost of coaching packages, which means that it’s a bit easier to build into your budget.
Does this sound good?
If you want to know more about what I offer and have a FREE 20 minute call to talk about what you’d like to get from coaching and see if we’re a good fit for each other, then get in touch.
As I say, if you have any more questions, then ask them in the comments!